Strong Values + Strong Will x Skills = Success
I had the privilege of hearing author, Jim Collins, speak recently. He said a lot of things that made me think, a sign of a good SME (subject-matter-expert), and one thing in particular stood out: “ First, great leaders must have strong values and a strong will and then skills”. How many people have you encountered that had tremendous skills and competencies, with great potential, yet they never reach that potential? Skills matter and with a strong under-pinning of good values and a strong will, success is inevitable. We are constantly bouncing around the whole “values” concept. Values are the guiding force of how we live and work. We understand that very few people have identical values. Yet, we know that our values must be in sync for us to work cohesively and productively. When was the last time you thought about how your values and your organization’s values work in tandem? If I ask you to list your personal values and that of your organization, would they align? Would there be any out of sync? What does your organization offer in support of your core values? How do your values support the goals/objectives of the organization? It may be worth your time to examine this. It could answer a few questions that you may have about your next steps and future goals. Jim Collins told a wonderful story of how having a strong will can make the difference in growing and surviving during tough times. We all have those tough times – individually and organizationally. What determines a strong will? More importantly how do you develop one? Ever heard of the phrase: “strong-willed child”? I happen to have given birth to one….some of you are relating to me right now! Once this child decided that she was going to do something or not do something, it became a real battle of wills. I would usually resort to using a well-known technique of: “You will do it because I am bigger than you!” I realized that technique was not going to last too long so fortunately I was given wise counsel that I should guide that strong will instead of trying to break it. This wise person told me that my strong-willed child who was pushing all my buttons would have a greater chance of being a successful adult if I would nurture that will. So how do we nurture a strong will? Here are some thoughts from Jim Collins’ insight and a few from someone who was raising one:
- Be clear on your objectives. Know what you want and don’t want. My strong-willed child was always very clear about her objectives, wants, needs, etc.
- Be ok with others pushing against you. Many times we get “talked out” of doing something that we know is the right thing to do. The key here is to make sure that we are aligned with our values and clear objectives. Strong-willed people should always listen to wise counsel and adjust if needed but never cave to someone else’s thinking.
- Set a plan and follow your plan. We lose our way so often because we didn’t create a plan or follow the plan that we created. We allow others to change it or we don’t take the necessary time to think it through.
- Be “fanatically disciplined”. This is one of the discoveries that Jim Collins made in his research of leaders for his book, Great by Choice. His research revealed that strong-willed leaders did the “hard” things, sacrificed for the future instead of enjoying the moment, and relied on their skills in times of chaos.
- Mistakes are going to happen. And there will be consequences. Strong-willed leaders will choose to accept those circumstances and to learn from them. This is a lesson that I learned from my wise counselor. Every time my strong-willed child made a “mistake”, I was encouraged to ask, “What did you learn?” instead of saying, “I told you so…”
In our ever-changing, competitive, super-charged information world, it’s more important than ever to be clear on our values and to be strong-willed. What are you doing to stay centered on your values and strengthen your will?